Affective autonomy

Affective autonomy is a way of life. It assumes that the goal of our life is happiness. And true happiness comes from our way of thinking, repeated day in day out. How do we know if what we think is helpful or hurtful ? Well it’s how you feel. Do you feel frustrated, anxious, sad, mad ? Thanks to our affective dimension, we know by experience, how we feel, good or bad. Thought creates, either loving thoughts, helping and therefore generates pleasant feelings. Thought might also create perceptions which have the power to sabotage my inner peace by giving me an increasing feeling of unhappiness…

Who says affective autonomy, also says affective dependence. I will be happy when, if … I love you when, if … We live in a rather materialistic society, where we believe we are free, because we can have a lot, do a lot and look good. This happiness derived from doing and having is however ephemeral and conditional. If I believe that my happiness comes from my work, my health, money, the weather or my actions, I depend on these things to be happy. Affective dependence is to put my happiness in the hands of the doing, having to allow myself to feel good and loving… It is a kind of slavery which, over the years, makes us more and more tired, disappointed, anxious, stressed, depressed etc … Fortunately, our discomfort is the opportunity for change. We can make the decision to go to the happiness school and learn to understand ourself and develop true sense of self-love. In simple words, we become our best friend day in day out, anywhere, at anytime, with every one, wether it’s rainy or sunny!