Affective autonomy

Affective autonomy is a way of life. It assumes that the goal of our life is happiness. And true happiness comes from our way of thinking, repeated from childhood to now. How do we know if what we think is helpful or hurtful ? Thanks to our affective dimension. Thought creates, either loving thoughts, helping and therefore generates pleasant feelings. Thought might also creates unconscious perceptions which have the power to sabotage my inner peace by giving me an increasing feeling of unhappiness…

I will be happy when, if … I love you when, if … Who says affective autonomy, also says affective dependence. We live in a rather materialistic society, where we believe we are free, because we can have a lot, do a lot and look good. This happiness derived from doing and having is however ephemeral and conditional. If I believe that my happiness comes from my work, my health, money, the weather or my actions, I depend on these things to be happy. Affective dependence is to put my happiness in the hands of the doing, having to allow myself to feel good and loving… It is a kind of slavery which, over the years, makes us more and more tired, disappointed, anxious, stressed, depressed etc … Fortunately, our suffering is the opportunity for change. We can make the decision to go to the happiness school and learn to understand yourself rather than judge yourself and eventually develop true sense of self-love.